Many verbally abusive Christian men use the word "submission" (Ephesians 5:22,24) to justify themselves.
An abusive, religious pharisee seeks to destroy, as Saul sought to destroy David.
"Saul tried to pin David to the wall with the spear, but he slipped away out of Saul's presence, so that he stuck the spear into the wall. And David fled and escaped that night." 1 Samuel 19:10